Blissification

Blissification

I love to make up words. I even made up a place to keep my made up words — The Fictionary.

It all started with a friend of mine who made up words because they sounded good. Another friend of mine didn’t know he was inventing these words and was intimidated beyond belief by this massive vocabulary. That is until I started pointing out which words were — um — non-standard English.

From there, we started keeping track of these creative new terms and decided that there was an eloquence to them… that and it was FUN to make up words. So we did.

And then it spread.

My fellow grammar guru, Christine, would get hysterical when I would share the latest entries into The Fictionary and started creating words of her own. So, it was only natural than when we started a blog together that it be titled with a term that we made up.

Blissification

That blog was founded on the scientifically-supported idea that if you pay attention to what makes you happy and spend at least part of your day counting your blessings, you can actually alleviate depression, improve overall health, and could even increase longevity. Sounds good, no?

Quite frankly, the science is nice validation for what we already know–it feels good to be happy. So, in an attempt to spread the wealth, we’ started Blissification to give a little levity to the blogosphere.

Fast forward a couple of years since the flash of brilliance hit us to start that blog. We’d added a handful of collaborators and most of us went on to create other web outlets for our thoughts. As you’ve read here, I didn’t want to have to create a new blog for every shiny idea I have — so I put my whole online presence under my name. But I also didn’t want to lose the shiny ideas I’d already had… so I brought Blissification and The MegaChallenge 200 and Pointing Forward and Happy and Included with me.

So, if all you want is the good stuff — steeped in Positive Psychology and full of gratitude — Blissification is your blog.

Enjoy!

Positive Words

A Comprehensive List of Positive Words

I am perpetually on the look out for positive, upbeat, happy, delightful words. I recently came across an entire list of them online and couldn’t wait to print them out to keep handy for my writing, thinking, visioning, and coaching activities.

Then I had a thought about how cool it would be to have them organized alphabetically as a Wordle. So, I made one.

Well, I love it tons and use it constantly and thought you might enjoy seeing it, too. You can make your own at Jonathan’s site by doing a copy-paste of the list and tweaking it to your delight.

I have not been on any of the other pages on the site where I found the Comprehensive List of Positive Words — so if you come across other helpful stuff there, let me know. In the meantime, I’ll be blissfully appreciating this magnificent collection.

http://www.ginalynette.com/2011/06/06/511/

Blissfully Organized Life

The Life Organizer by Jennifer LoudenA couple of years ago I picked up a book called The Life Organizer: A Woman’s Guide to a Mindful Year by Jennifer Louden. I loved the pretty cover and the full-color pages filled with thoughtful ways to redefine the traditional day planner method of organizing days and weeks into a more organic, soul-flowing method of structuring my life.

The reality was that my time was not my own. I half jokingly told people that I wasn’t allowed to write on my own calendar. The department where I worked expected me to book their meetings first, other department meetings next, and somewhere down the list I was allowed to squeeze in my family’s needs. My needs weren’t even on the radar. Lunch was often a package of crackers on the elevator. How in the world was I going to shift from this hyper-structured, out-of-my-control life to basing my days on “what experience or feeling do I yearn for today?”

It felt like I was standing in the arctic circle longing for a beach vacation. The divide seemed uncrossable.

Fast forward two years.

In this time, I have made some changes. That job is a vague memory. I still work in the same field — working toward an inclusive community where people are beloved and honored for their many assets and supported in those areas where they struggle — but in a very different capacity.

My days are my own.

Sure, I still have schedules to follow — dropping off and picking up children, appointments, meetings, and deadlines — but there is a more organic flow to my days. I work from my home office overlooking nearly 7 acres of trees and grass. I allow margin in my days. There is time to think and read and study and prepare for those deadlines and meetings and appointments.

I am less available but more present.

Thanks, Jennifer, for sending the map to a way of life I didn’t even know was possible.

It is bliss.

Welcome!

Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. -- Helen KellerI’ve been “online” since sometime around 1992 when a tech savvy boyfriend gave me a 386 with a modem and BBS phone number. I chatted with folks about music and movies until I discovered a group that was dedicated to discussing interventions for a variety of health concerns. Nearly 20 years later, I’ve replaced about a dozen computers — the latest of which cost less than the 4 MB memory upgrade to that 386 did two decades ago — started several websites and blogs, watched service providers come and go, connected with folks on Twitter and reconnected with others on Facebook.

I’ve also gone through my share of changes. That boyfriend went on his way as did I. I married and divorced and married again. I’ve given birth to two kids — while losing three others — and earned two bonus daughters through my second marriage. I’ve moved more times that I’d like to count and have settled in my dream home with my soul mate just south of Nashville, TN.

I’ve gained weight and lost it and gained it back — sometimes because of those pregnancies and sometimes because of less specific causes.I blogged the largest of those losses on the MegaChallenge 200 about 5 years ago.

I’ve gone back to school … three times … taken courses in everything from coaching to statistics to history to leadership to rhetoric to psychology to training to management to marketing and back again. I discovered my passion — guiding folks through transitions using person-centered conversations and graphics — in 2001 at a PATH training offered by Dave and Faye Wetherow. I added some of the stuff from The Grove and Helen Sanderson and sundry other smart-thinking folks to my tool kit. I then found Christina Merkley’s SHIFT-IT Graphic Coaching process and fell in love. Several years later, she trained and certified me to walk folks through her tried and true process of creating positive change. I added other tools and ideas along the way… and then practiced and tweaked and practiced some more.

I wanted a place where I could share what I know and hope to learn with folks. The “online” complement to my really real existence. A launching spot for my other projects and connections that aren’t limited by a catchy URL. What defines my online presence? Well, hopefully it’s my offline reality.

And that brings us to now.

With the help of Robert Owen — someone who has known me even longer than I’ve been online, amazing as that may seem, and who entered my life about the time I bought my first issue of Byte magazine (so… 1982ish) — I’m finally overcoming the “it’s conceited to have a website with your name on it” Golf Whispers and launching www.ginalynette.com. I’m me. This site is mine. It’ll contain things that I like or feel are important or can do. Whatever that happens to include.

So, what’s next?

Hopefully more growth, additional connections, and new insights — all while standing firmly on this foundation of purpose and joy that I’ve built across the first 40 years of my life.

Welcome!

If you’ve known me for most of those 40 years, you know that I’m all afire about positive and possible and pointing forward. If you’re just coming into my milieu now, you’ll find I’m a warm-hearted idealist who tends to get folks moving even if they didn’t mean to.

Let’s go!

Poetry: Warming Up

Gina's Office

I joined an online writing group offered by Jill Badonsky. As part of this group, she offers prompts to get us writing. I won’t share her prompts here (If you want that inspiration, you can join, too!) but in an effort to honor those sweet folks who are cheering me on as I leap into this writing thing again, I’ll share some of my responses.

Here’s my first go at it:

Haiku – 5 – 7 – 5

A new day begins
with the sweet sounds of children
smashing our dishes.

Tanka – 5 – 7 – 5 – 7 – 7

Another day ends
With the loud sighs of children
Force-marched to their rooms.
There is no one happier
Than a mom with kids tucked in.

Cinquain – 2 – 4 – 6 – 8 – 2

Children
Are the sweetest
Blessings on this big earth.
In spite of full time duty, call me,
Mommy.

Happy Quote

The belief that unhappiness is selfless and happiness is selfish is misguided.

–Gretchen Rubin

Happy Quote



R
ecovering your emotional health will suffuse even small successes with joy, long before you achieve anything obviously spectacular.


—Martha Beck

Happy Quote

It is said that when a butterfly flaps its wings, that energy flows thousands of miles away. And a silent blessing or thought of love toward others contains a vibration that will be felt throughout the cosmos. 

 

–Wayne Dyer

The Art of Saying Yes!

After typing the title of this entry, the Jim Carey movie where he has to say yes to everything comes to mind. If you saw it, you will recall that he was quite the practiced curmudgeon and made himself — and everyone around him — pretty miserable. After he changes modes cool things start happening. He gets the girl, starts doing things he loves, and has a pretty wild ride… until it all goes horribly wrong.

I think that potential — the part where the wheels come off — is the reason so many of us are so practiced at turning down wonderful opportunities. We are intrigued, but then we start our litany of what-ifs and what-would-they-thinks and it’s-too-good-to-be-trues.

We’ve learned — often the hard way — that it’s a better bet to stick with the plan. Even if it makes us miserable.

You may have heard the term “calculated risk” bandied about. Finance people love it. Well, I am proposing a different approach. How about a calculated leap? A delicious risk?

The best thing about saying yes is that you get what you want on the other side of it! Expanding our options, offering gratitude, and leaping for those proverbial rings all allow new life into our days.

As the saying goes, “If you aim for the moon and miss, you are still among the stars.”

So, next time someone offers you a chance of a lifetime, jump…

for joy!

Happy Lady


My Aunt Glenda was one of the happiest people I’ve ever known.

Now, this is particularly remarkable because, from all appearances, she had little or nothing to be happy about. She had cancer for about a decade and bounced from hospital to hospital enduring every possible torture in the form of treatment. Add to this picture a hard life in the Virginia mountains, raising two boys on one salary, isolated from the “stuff” that most of our family takes for granted.

But she had everything that mattered. She and my uncle seemed to adore one another. She laughed a lot — often at herself — and possessed a fearsome faith in a God that watched out for her and those she loved. She didn’t claim to understand why she had cancer, but would point out that without it, she wouldn’t have taken her witness beyond the road where she was born, lived, and died.

Every time I conjure up an image of Aunt Glenda she is smiling and laughing — mane of red hair matching the blush that was often inspired by her realization that we were paying her any mind.

I left a pomegranate on her gleaming white casket. It seemed fitting… plump, red, and filled with little seeds. That happy lady certainly spread her share of little seeds… faith, laughter, humility, and hope.

Such a lovely, lovely legacy.

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